News on violence, just like murders, do not impress us anymore. We see violence, we hear it, we touch it, we feel it, we try it. We cannot escape from its persecution because we cannot predict who will exercise it and when it will come, so we cannot cure it. Now modern girls beat each- other in the middle of the night in one of Brryli streets, after coming out of a pub. MPs fight among themselves for the reputation of the party or leader, or even for a word. Protesters fight at the Lake, even policemen do... Husband beats wife, but there are even tough women who beat their husbands... Son beats father or mother when they don't give them money to have fun... Grandson steals from grandfather or grandmother, then, together with his friends they beat both of them, if they oppose... Brother wounds his brother with an ax for water or a parcel , just like relatives of the patient beat the doctor at the operation room...
The truth is that these quarrels, that police say they happen for 'banal reasons', usually end up in murder.
Brawls in our society, called democratic, have become ordinary. Violence has become a suit of personality, so it seems more than usual to us, just like polluted air. We have been updated with the tough guys of neighborhoods and politics, with the TV chronicle, with the disrespect of bold guys all dressed up, to the point that our attention is attracted mostly by Basha's answer to Rama's letter, than the brawls and fights between neighbors.
At first we got used to associate democracy and pluralism with the street verbal violence (now we can hear girls revile), then to the slut vocabulary used by the fathers of the nation in Parliament, but now the violence, not only the verbal one, but even the physical one, has spread and has got down to the field, becoming a master in the family, luxurious cafes, people, everywhere... Violence, vulgarity and aggressiveness are estimated as the best and most effective means to solve quickly, without the delays of bureaucracy, the confusions, difficulties, troubles and problems. A novelty of the recent years is that the brawls have started even in schools. Teachers are beating pupils and vice versa. Even the pupils are beating the teachers in the middle of the classroom... Quarrels and scrimmages in schools yards are accompanied not only with dirty words, fists and kicks, but even with knives... A teenager carried a weapon to school in order to kill the teacher. As long as such violence is not seen and is not made public, it doesn't count. In the end, this too means that we are 'in the right direction'.
Thanks to secret recorded by mobile phones we are informed on any kind of beating, one more original and stranger than the other... But no one worries to know the reason why violence continues to increase in our traumatic society. What happened to the nowadays man, so that violence is rooted so deeply, up to the point that nobody believes in state institutions, laws and moral, religious dogma or jail punishment? Are violence and the increase of aggressiveness concrete expression of the sharp moral and material crisis of our society?
Of course! I believe that this should not be opposed even by the most ardent followers of the Renaissance of facades. But, is the grown propaganda of successes, the slogan 'It is the fault of Sali', enough for conflicts, disagreements, fights, quarrels and brawls among Albanians to be reduced?
Following this reasoning: are the interventions of police and prosecution, even the legal toughening of punishment measures against malefactors and violators to 'demilitarize' and pacify the society, street, school, institutions, family, coexistence, from progressive and unstoppable intensification of violence enough? And if we admit that a fish rots from the head down, will decriminalization be made after the troublesome and extremely specific approval of the law on the obligatory purification of politics? Will lawmakers, judges, mayors, prosecutors, our masters become more normal given that they will be forced to deliver their weapons? Will school be saved from vulgarity, from the massive production of half-ignorant students who have more faith in aggressiveness and use of muscles than books and knowledge? Will the education reform interrupt mutual brawls teacher- pupil and pupil- teacher? All these questions and others have no answer because no one wants to find out where the true roots of violence are.
There is no need for much knowledge to understand that the roots of violence are nurtured by poverty. They are in ‘poverty- rascality’, as old men used to say. The increase of violence is related to the progressive increase of ignorance, from the massive production of illiterates with a diploma. To a ‘modern’ and official ignorance that rules, leads and gives the model of imitation to the entire society. Violence is related to the lack of hope and endless struggle for survival. To the anxiety of unemployment. To the lack of a good, positive example. To the inequality that continues to sharpen. Conflicts, thefts, beating, brawls and murders are related to the temptation of advertisements and sparkling shows and, on the other hand, to the objective inability for youngsters to live as in the advertisements… Above all, to the very low and extremely poor level of education system for some generations.
If there is something old-fashioned today that is good manners. Having a good behavior today is old-fashioned, retro, outdated. In order to understand this, all you need to do is to witness an informal conversation with senior officials, so to be convinced of the vulgar, violent and humiliating vocabulary they use with each-other and especially with their dependants. They use verbal violence to uplift themselves, to intimidate and humiliate dependants, to convince themselves that they really are on the top.
Few days ago, there was a news that in Durres, in the orphanage, the educator beat, massacring, a three-year old orphan. As in a horror movie, this was a repetition of the masochist scene of another educator in Shkodra, who few months ago was filmed seating on two children who were terrified, while the educator punished them with the weight of her body, carrying out a conversation as she pleased…
Given that the beating of the baby at the orphanage in Durres was denounced on the TV, high authorities of the state, directors, chief police, the very minister of social welfare, appeared in front of the cameras to tranquillize us, informing that the educator was fired and even arrested, while the beaten baby was being treated and is now ‘out of life-threatening danger’…
Even the few months old baby abandoned in a village of Dibra by a divorced mother, and left alone by the father (given that the latter was forced to go out to look for a job) was treated by the state structures after the fact was made public… Even in this case the authorities said that the abandoned baby would finally benefit the care of state. What if these cases were not made public by the media, would any of the state structures, those who deal with ‘social welfare’, do anything? What about the other cases, thousands of them, that we do not see because they are not published, who will solve them?
Violence is not eliminated by sentencing to imprisonment the educator who beat the baby, not even if the authorities are merciful, or if the mayor carries in his arms a Roma child to take him to the hospital… The source of violence is not imprisoned by punishing an educator, or by giving charity, or with banners of NPOs that condemn in boulevards the violence against women and defenseless children… without social policies to really mitigate misery and poverty, which impede the deepening of the inequality gap, which educate and give culture to the society, thus without finding out the reasons that make a senior official, a teacher, a police officer, an educator exercise violence on the defenseless, on the weakest, like on an orphaned baby, it is like saying that you have cured cancer with face cream and powder.
“After the World War II we have been the poorest country of Europe,” a Finnish writer, who came to Tirana to promote a manual with 100 specifics from his country, said.
“We do not have natural assets, only plenty of water, thousands of lakes and forests. We do not have minerals or diamonds… But today Finland is one of the countries with the highest standards in the world. We have five priorities. The first one is education. Education is for free and obligatory. Even higher education. We willingly pay taxes for education, over 40 percent… Our national anthem has only two lines: we were born poor, we will die poor…”
I listened to this and I felt sorrow. Sorrow for myself, for my country, for the time and for my generation and that of our children, to whom we are leaving as heritage not only a degraded education system, a society with endless conflicts, a partial land, but even a moral and political system that continues to be guided by the barbarian principle ‘Every man for himself, God for us all’… Not by the Christian moral of the two lines of the Finnish anthem, which educates the people with the feeling of devotion, commitment, work, solidarity, culture and, above all, modesty. Only these qualities, education and culture, can make people progress!